Attachment is the strong, affection
tie we have with special people in our lives that leads us to feel pleasure and
happiness when we interact with them and to be comforted by them during times
of stress (Berk, 2003).
John Bowlby (Berk, 2003), was among
the first applied the idea of the bonding between infant and caregiver. According to Bowlby, the quality of
attachment has implications for the child’s capacity to form trusting
relationships. In his theory, babies are
born adapted to seek out such attachments not primarily with the aim of being fed
and protected but for the feelings of safety and security the attachment
brings. Children show a marked
preference for intimacy to a small number of adults and these attachments are
normal and universal part of human development.
Furthermore, in his theory, he found that the quality of attachment to the caregiver
has profound implications on the child’s feelings of security and the capacity
to form trusting relationships and the purpose of attachment theory is that
mothers who are available and responsive to their infant's needs establish a
sense of security in their children. The infant knows that the caregiver is
dependable, which creates a secure base for the child to then explore the
world.
However, in John Bowlby’s theory,
the limitation of "model attachment" is based on behaviors that occur during
momentary separations (stressful situations) rather than during non-stressful
situations. Behaviors directed towards
the attachment figure during departing and reunion times cannot be the only
factors used when defining attachment.
Moreover, how children and mothers interact together and not stressed
shows more of how the attachment model works than how the child acts when the
mother leaves and then returns.
Another limitation with the
attachment model is that the list of attachment behaviors is limited to
those that occur with the primary attachment figure, typically the mother. Children have attachments to other people
other than their mothers, but they do not show this attachment in the same way(Field, 1996).
For example, children may cry or follow their mother when they are getting
ready to leave them, but for a sibling or peer they may just become fussy or unhappy. Or maybe in school, when teacher is getting
ready to leave them, and they may just become fine or nothing just because probably
their peers is there with them. Nevertheless, the attachment model behavior lists
only deliberate behaviors, but there may be physiological changes during
separations and reunions.
I have reviewed the basic ideas of
attachment theory and criticisms of attachment theory and the mother is not
always the primary attachment figure, so it cannot be assumed that she always
will be. Nevertheless, when children are
ready to let go and make friends, the attachment will change because they are
going on their own instincts, thoughts, feeling and what their peers think and
feel.